I never ‘came out’.
It didn’t make any sense for me to sit someone down and tell them I was gay.
I simply lived my life.
I remember once, when I was in university, friends were trying to coerce me into a confession.
The truth is, I was labelling myself for other people’s comfort, not mine.
Anyone could have said, ‘oh honey, you’re gay,’ based on a number of traits I have, but no one knew what was going through my brain at that time. Not even me.
There was a reason gays provided for coming out and it was about acceptance. With respect, fuck off to that.
I didn’t need anyone’s acceptance. Can you imagine telling someone you’re gay in hopes that they accept you? If they didn’t, I wouldn’t want them in my life anyway.
I don’t need anyone’s validation, I only need my own. The truth is the same now as it was then.
I’ve never sat someone down to tell them that I was gay. I find it demeaning to do such a thing. What straight person does that?
My advice to anyone thinking about declaring their homosexuality is don’t bother.
Just live.
Perfectly said! Be you and never feel bad or apologize for it. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for your kind and supportive comment.