No one’s business but your own

The recent insanity that was Will Smith’s Oscar debacle had me thinking about his marriage to Jada.

They seem to really want us to know about it, don’t they? For some reason they feel the need to talk about their infidelities, their open marriage, topics that are really no one’s business but their own.

It got me thinking a lot about gossip. I cannot stand gossip, because it’s mostly toxic and negative. My life isn’t so terrible that I have to escape it by talking about the perceived problems of other people. To me, it’s far more logical to worry about and fix my own issues instead of relishing in what I think are the issues of other people.

Here’s where I get a bit irate. And I’m speaking rather direct here but it’s meant generally. If you’re the type of person who feels entitled to know about the intricacies of someone else’s marriage, you’re fucked, disturbed even. It’s really not your business. To paraphrase Jordan Peterson, clean up your own mess first, because surely you have some.

This need the public has to consume gossip, to talk about other people makes me rather uncomfortable. I don’t want to be around limited individuals like that, I want to be as far away from them as possible.

Also, to people like Will and Jada allow me to provide this bit of advice: it’s your business, you don’t have to tell anyone, anything. Have the marriage that is right for both of you without the need to convince others. It is not their life, it is your life. Don’t worry so much about the judgments of family, friends, strangers, no one, because it doesn’t matter. You don’t need their approval to live your life as you want to.

Your business is your own. Anyone who feels they are entitled to knowing your business is a messed up individual who is probably unhappy.

2 thoughts on “No one’s business but your own

  1. “I can’t stand gossip”-proceeds to write a blog post of celebrity gossip.
    Seriously, dude? You gotta be a little more self-aware than that.

    1. It’s not gossip as I’m not talking about their personal lives, or assuming anything about them. I’m taking personal matters they’ve shared about their marriage and generalizing it to a wider audience to convey the message that no couple is obligated to share anything about their marriage nor are we entitled to know anything about anyone’s marriage.

      How did you miss that? Or was the desire to write something snarky too hard to pass up? Also, perhaps maybe when writing a comment to someone on a blog you chose to read you might want to lay off on the personal attacks. You know nothing about me nor how self-aware I may or may not be.


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