The true homophobes

It’s pride month here in Toronto and there’s a lot of talk amongst activist gays about homophobia. To be honest, I do not experience homophobia anymore, and I think that’s a really good thing. I celebrate the social progress that has been made in my lifetime. I wish pride organizers would focus more on the gains we’ve made, the equality we’ve achieved, instead on the same old tired victim narrative I reject.

But this isn’t something that gay activists want to hear. They live and breathe on victimhood status. You see, progressives cannot see progress anywhere. To acknowledge social progress is too risky for them, they identify too much with being a victim, even when there is no evidence to support their claims.

The last homophobic thing anyone ever said to me was back in 2019. It was uttered by a black woman of Jamaican descent, who happens to be a friend of sorts. When I began my current job, she asked if I was the only man on the leadership team. When I replied yes I was, she stated, “I guess they wanted a man, but not a real man.” To which I threw up my beer.

You see, to people like her, real men can’t be gay. A lot of straight women hold the view that gay men are not whole men. However, I didn’t get upset with her, that’s who she is, and the culture in which she was raised but it did get me thinking about where true homophobia lies, and it’s usually within black Caribbean culture.

[It has to be said in this highly polarized and manufactured outrage culture we now find ourselves living through that not all people from the Caribbean are homophobic. I feel I have to say this, though anyone with half a mind would know that to be true.]

This is too inconvenient a truth for most gay activists, because they don’t know how to address this reality without sounding racist. They’ve created an entire world where any criticism about a black person is now bigotry. Which of course, is ludicrous. Everyone of any color, race, creed, religion, sexuality, nation, whatever it happens to be, is deserving of having their views critiqued.

These beliefs are usually championed by white, middle-class and middle-aged women, usually with children. They love to virtue signal about white supremacy, white nationalism; everyone who disagrees with trendy narratives are fascists, Nazis, bigots, racists, etc. Trust me, I’ve had these very limited conversations one too many times. But not apparently people from the Caribbean, where there are anti-gay laws that force gay men and women into hiding. Not apparently Islamic countries, where the penalty for gay sex is death. Not even sex, just the inkling that someone might be gay is reason enough for them to die.

To these women, any charge against these areas of the world who practice true institutionalized homophobia cannot be criticized because said criticism is racist. This is not a joke. If you’re a person of color, you are above criticism. Now who’s the racist? It must be noted that no one is criticizing the color of their skin, they are criticizing their ideas that gay men and women are subhuman. Liberal women practice this idea that all gay men and women and all minorities for that matter, must think alike on every single social issue. If not, they’re excommunicated from the cult of leftism.

To these women, they preach, listen to black voices, but not the black voices that dissent. Those black people must be ignored, or mistreated. When you believe that every black person must think the same on every single social issue you’re the bigot. You’re the racist. When you believe that all gay people must think the same exact thing on every single social issue, you’re the bigot. You’re the homophobe. When you mistreat minorities for straying from the approved narrative, when you ignore them, shame them, ridicule them, well, you’re the bigot. You’re the closed-minded bigot.

This is the left.

The real homophobia in North American culture exists within the LGBTQ+ community. Even amongst our ‘allies’. Again, another reality that is too inconvenient for most activist zealots. Where gay men are told to have sex with women who identify as men, and are labeled bigots if they don’t.

Anyone who can’t see how ‘problematic’ and homophobic this is does not have the faintest understanding of history. The first fight in the gay rights movement was to make gay sex legal. Before then, gay sex was criminalized. We were told to live a double life, to stay in the closet, to have sex with a woman, even when we weren’t attracted to her. This pressure came from straight people, shaming us into a life we weren’t meant to lead. Now that homophobia is coming from within the house. It’s frightening.

I can’t tell you the last time I was subjected to a straight man’s homophobia. It simply does not happen. I go to a bar right down the road from my apartment all the time, and sit next to the best, most wonderful heterosexual men who can affectionately say things like ‘faggot’ and ‘that’s so gay’ and I laugh because I know they aren’t bigots. Because I know them, for who they are, and don’t judge them on the words they use.

Leftists believe I’m a victim. And if I reject that label, I’m a bigot.

Anyway, some food for thought this pride month.

3 thoughts on “The true homophobes

  1. Interesting read. I, myself have not had any homophobic comments made to me or been made to feel uncomfortable, however, that doesn’t mean things don’t have to change. I still feel uncomfortable showing affection to my partner in public And wouldn’t hold hands on the street for fear of peoples reactions. I still don’t tell people that I’m married to a man in my work, as i appreciate not all cultures or generations appreciate that. If someone said the word faggot, or that’s so gay, I would be greatly offended. Maybe that’s just me 🤷🏼‍♂️. We all have different perspectives 😊

    1. Thanks for your reply. I don’t get offended by words. I do not allow them to have any power over me. The context in how those men use those words is very important too. They don’t mean it the way some would perceive it. I’ve written about this before but I have never craved the approval or acceptance of others. It’s why I never ‘came out’ I simply lived my life as I wanted. I didn’t make any public declarations or demand that people accept me. I accepted myself and lived my life openly and if people had a problem with it, well, that is very much their problem. I live in Toronto so showing affection to your partner is not considered a big deal here. Maybe in rural areas it would be more an issue, but I spend a lot of time in cottage country and there appears to be no malice directed at gays, rather many rural areas now have their very own small, but popular pride parades. And yes, you’re right, we all have different perspectives, and that’s a beautiful thing!

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